Heart Chart
A. 1984 Married
B. 1985 Son Kyle was born
C. 1987 Divorced my husband
D. 1988 Relationship Abusive Man & Pregnant
E. 1989 Ended Relationship With Boyfriend
F. 1989 Daughter Jessica was Born
G 1998 Victim of Sexual/Battery Assault
H. 1998-2000 Victim of Stalking
I. 2000 Moved to WA State with New Identity
J. 2002 Relationship w/ Abusive Man 1-year
K. 2005 Relationship Boyfriend 2005-2007
L. 2006 Diagnosed Stage 3 Breast cancer
M. 2006 Bilateral Mastectomy (Staph Infection)
From 1984 through 2002, Fear and Self-Criticism (red and yellow) dominated the scene, while Faith, Self-Compassion, and my Soul Purpose (blue, green, and purple) were lost in the shadows. But then, in 2006, everything changed. That's when I had my wake-up call and discovered the power of self-compassion. With each passing day, my faith grew stronger, and I began to unravel the hidden truth of my divine Soul Purpose.
I'd like you to envision my chart: a beautiful kaleidoscope of colors. Purple, the vibrant hue of Soul Purpose, stands tall. Blue, the color of unwavering Faith, shines brightly. And let's remember the soothing green of Self-Compassion, offering solace in the storm. As for Fear and Self-Criticism? They're slowly fading away, making room for a brighter, more empowered me.
You see, Faith, fear, self-compassion, self-criticism, and the realization of our soul's divine purpose profoundly impact our overall well-being and sense of self-worth. And I won't lie, my friend, it's not always easy to hold onto Faith and self-compassion when life throws its curveballs. But trust me when I say this: we can navigate our tumultuous emotions and find solace amid chaos. It's a wild roller coaster ride, but one that's worth every twist and turn.
Cancer was just one of my traumatic experiences, as you'll discover in my timeline below the HEART CHART. My H.E.A.R.T Chart unveils the growth of my faith and self-compassion. Self-compassion should never be mistaken for self-pity. We are all creations of God and recipients of His love. The Lord's command is clear: love others as we love ourselves. Reflecting on this, we realize that God never intended for us to love ourselves any less. Rather, He encourages us to extend that same love to others.
I must admit grasping the concept of self-compassion was initially challenging. I used to associate self-love with narcissism or conceit. However, my perception transformed as I experienced God's love and gained a deeper understanding of self-compassion. It's about honoring ourselves, flaws and all, with kindness and acceptance. Before we can fully love others, we must understand the value of self-compassion.
After years of life coaching and delving into God's desire for us to feel loved, I have come to comprehend the true essence of self-compassion. This newfound understanding allows me to genuinely love my children and maintain a healthy balance in my life.
N. 2008 Broke up With Boyfriend
O. 2008 Remission from Stage 3 Cancer
P. 2009 Moved back to Simi Valley, CA
Q. 2010 Stage 4 Recurrence & Radiation
R. 2010 Cancer worse-UCLA gave me 3-12 months
S. 2010-2011 Raised Money to get to CMN
T. 2010 Married Abusive Man
U. 2011 CMN Hospital MX Alternative Cancer Treatment
V. 2011 Oct 15th, Cancer-Free
W. 2012 Oct 15th Divorced Abusive Husband
X. 2016 Faith-based Life Coaching for Women
Y 2019 Married Michael-the most wonderful man in the world
When we release the grip of harsh self-criticism, we can start cultivating a deep sense of self-compassion and compassionately embrace our own hearts with utmost acceptance and respect. Doing so unlocks the true potential of experiencing the love and appreciation we were always destined to receive. This inner transformation enables us to extend the same love and warmth to our fellow beings, embodying the essence of loving our neighbors as we genuinely love ourselves. It's a beautiful journey of self-discovery and interconnectedness that brings profound fulfillment and harmony to our lives.
Discover your path to growth and self-discovery with the transformative power of a HEART chart analysis. This insightful tool captures the tangible progress of faith and self-compassion in your life, unlocking the potential for profound healing and personal transformation.
By delving into the physical realm through diet, weight management, bloodwork, and labs, we uncover measurable results that reflect your journey towards holistic well-being. But the journey doesn't end there – emotional trauma and recovery are also quantifiable. Starting from childhood and accumulating over time, these experiences shape our perception of ourselves and hinder us from embracing our true identity.
Yet, amidst the layers of trauma lies a glimmer of hope. The ultimate love and approval await us, and God's unwavering love is ever-present. It's time to return to the truth of your identity through Christ by nurturing self-compassion.
Embark on a transformative journey towards wholeness. Embrace the power of self-compassion and reclaim your authentic self. You deserve it.
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Trauma is when an incident takes place that puts your safety at risk causing extreme fear. The severity of the lasting effect varies from one individual to another. What is traumatic for one may not be for another, how we respond to traumatic events such as a car accident. natural disasters, violence, verbal, physical or sexual abuse, domestic violence, emotional and physical neglect, and emotional abuse can have a lasting impact on individuals.
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Adverse childhood traumas left unresolved can increase the chances of heart disease, cancer, suicide attempts, drug and alcohol abuse, and more. After a traumatic incident, our minds and bodies are programmed to go through a healing process following a trauma: feeling the memories of the event, talking about the event, and undergoing sadness. If the child’s environment does not support that, it can be emotionally and physically harmful.
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How we react to traumatic stressors can affect how we engage with others in life. Survivors’ immediate reactions in the aftermath of trauma are diverse and can be complicated. They can differ in seriousness depending on the accessibility of someone’s support, whether with immediate family, their community, or available professional services in which they live. We are programmed to go through a healing process following a trauma through the mind and body. We feel the memories of the event, talk about the event, and undergo sadness.
ANS (Automatic Nervous System) constantly scans for safety risk and dangers. It affects the cortisol adrenaline releases. ANS helps us bounce back and move on unless traumatic events are so threatening it resorts to fight, flight, or freeze states to the point of debilitation to protect an individual from future trauma.
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Unresolved trauma puts people at increased risk for mental and physical health diagnoses, which range from health disorders such as anxiety, depression, PTSD, and physical manifestations such as cardiovascular problems like stroke, heart attack, cancer, or high blood pressure and more.